I was never a Rope enthusiast! It was complicated, took too long and seemed as if there would never be an adequate way to tie it into my Spanking style. Plus I have a linear learning disability that inhibits my ability to process and hold information.
I'd watch people doing rope and often times would yawn and walk the other way to my fave activity of spanking. I have a lot of friends who were into Rope and they always tried talking it up to me.
A couple of chance opportunities opened my eyes to the possibilities of rope. The first was when a friend asked me to accompany her to a Rope Social. When we entered I recognized a few friends and began to watch fairly closely.
What I noticed right away was the energy between the Rigger and his partner. The look of complete satisfaction and connection. It was crystallized in a scene that I saw that between a friend of mine and her Partner. He had her tie to a post her eyes blindfolded by rope. He held about 6 feet of rope from the tie in his hand and held it tight. She was smiling and taking small shallow breaths. She looked happy. He then let go of the rope and you could see the change immediately. She became agitated, her breath quickened and you could sense she was not at ease.
He then walked away from her and picked up a single tail and cracked it. At that point she burst into tears. She was inconsolable. He then walked over to her picked up the end of the rope and pulled it tight. Instantaneously she regained her composure. To me that was magic.
I began to wondered how could I get that effect with spanking. I have gotten Women to subspace before but there was something about the energy exchange that I felt was heightened in a way I had not yet captured. The one thing that I noticed was how consistent the energy flow was simply because of the constant contact between Rigger and Bottom.
I love Energy play but after watching Rope players I found some little tweaks that enhanced what I am able to accomplish through Spanking and Rope play combined.
I found if I start with a spanking we are able to find our space. Just something to warm things up and start our connection.
This makes moving to the Rope part of our play much more fluid. It allows for us to build upon touch and sensation. I believe that for the two of us the more that we create a little bit of controlled emotional chaos the better things get. Finding ties that would allow for restraint and leaving the bottom exposed was essential for me to keep me engaged and focused.
|Finding ties and unique positioning helps|
I also found that if the Spanking progressed with the Rope we both maintain the energy we want simply due to the fact that we never feel we are giving up one to the exclusivity to the other. And if we went with something significantly more about constraint it lent itself to utilizing certain toys between the spaces. But the Spanking or Impact play beforehand would have to be a touch more intense so the feelings remained as I tied. A nice discovery along the way has been using the ends of the rope as I go along to flog certain areas generates interesting responses.
But in truth what I am learning to appreciate is that melding different styles of play together allows you so many other spaces to go to. For me and I hope for my BabyGirl we get wrapped up in this energy cocoon where every part of us is engaged.
The intimacy of both Spanking and Rope lends themselves to explore feelings and sensations that leave you so much more connected. When she is wrapped up it forces me to find different parts of her body that have their own erogenous qualities, the same as when I am spanking her I want to find different strokes or touch to guide us both to areas we may have never considered before.
Don't get me wrong I am now and always will be a committed and enthusiastic Spanko...just with a few more tricks to pull out of my bag. And I am certainly developing a love for the esthetics of a spanked bottom in Rope.